You are invited! Lifestyle, Weddings
October 11 2017
Opening that beautifully addressed envelope or clicking on a festive “Save The Date” email, opens the door to a rush of emotions for any wedding guest. Swirling around your head are the inevitable questions about who else is coming and what should I wear. Then, you stop to realize that a gift must be purchased for the soon to be married couple.
Technology has made the decision so much easier for both the engaged couple and the wedding guest. Online registry sites, such as Zola Registry, provide a platform for the couple to place their entire, carefully selected, registry on one site, allowing the guests to click once or maybe twice, if they are feeling extra generous. The delivery of the gift is direct to the residence of the bride or groom. The option for the guest to click on a price range, prompting the site to generate a list of items from the registry that fall within that range provides an easy way to stay within a comfortable budget.
Not all couples need or want practical household items. This is where a site such as Honeyfund serves to communicate and facilitate the giving of cash gifts, with a specific purpose in mind. The wedding couple may wish to give their guests the opportunity to contribute to their honeymoon, to a down payment on their house, or to donate to their favorite charity. Both guests and couples know that their money will be well spent on making the future bright for the bride and groom.
How do you personalize your gift, if you feel that you are a close friend or relative and do not want to just follow the registry or give cash? You might wish to view the registry with clues in mind as to color scheme or style trends, selected by the couple. Then, select a specific gift or a certain amount of cash and supplement it with a small, extra gift, to complement their style and provide a memento for them to use on special occasions. Personalized stationary or napkins are good choices.
Remember that you are not the only one who will be attending the wedding, so take the opportunity to go in on a group gift. This makes the economic burden lighter for you and your friends and allows you to give a more lavish gift. Another way to ease the financial burden is to complete a set of dishes or glasses. That way the newlywed couple will be able to entertain more friends in the style they have chosen. No one can determine how much money you should spend, but general guidelines allow for more money to be spent on weddings of your closest relatives and friends. Recent studies have shown that between $150 and $250 is the average amount spent on such weddings. Certainly, your personal finances should dictate whether more or less is appropriate for you.
Sending the gift sooner, rather than later makes good sense. And, try to avoid bringing the gift to the wedding. The happy couple is usually heading off to a festive destination, and the weight limit on their suitcase has already been reached with just the right clothes for their favorite activities.
Above all, know that your gift will be appreciated, as will your presence at this special event! 

Written by Lauren Lemke, Wedding Coordinator at Amy Abbott Events.
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