When it comes to dress codes, black tie optional has quietly become the most requested by our style-conscious couples. After planning hundreds of destination weddings in tropical locales—from Los Cabos to Cartagena to Punta Mita—we’ve noticed something interesting. No matter the setting, certain themes consistently emerge.
Black tie optional makes sense. In destinations where warm breezes, ocean backdrops, and natural beauty steal the show, couples are still leaning into formality—but with flexibility. Black tie optional offers the best of both worlds: it sets the tone for an elegant affair, without the pressure of a strict black-tie mandate.
Of course, every couple knows the aesthetic they want. The beauty of hosting a wedding in a tropical destination is the versatility of the spaces themselves. From lush beachfronts to historical courtyards to cliffside villas, there’s room to express your unique style. Still, more and more of our most elevated events are embracing black tie optional because of how well it suits the atmosphere: elevated, intentional, and inviting.
But here’s where things can get complicated—guests often hear “tropical wedding” and immediately think “casual.” A mini dress, linen shirt, or beach sandals might feel right for the location, but without clear direction, the aesthetic can go sideways fast. The solution? Be kind, but be clear. You can absolutely guide guests toward your desired dress code without sounding fussy.
Let’s break it down.
So, What Does ‘Black Tie Optional’ Mean?
For men, it means a tuxedo is always appropriate, but a dark suit and tie is perfectly acceptable. For women, it opens the door to everything from floor-length gowns to elevated cocktail dresses to chic jumpsuits—provided the overall look is thoughtful and elegant. Think breathable fabrics like crepe, silk, and satin that feel luxurious but work with the climate.
Footwear matters, too. We always suggest elegant but practical shoes, especially for outdoor venues—block heels, dressy flats, or a sandal with structure. No flip-flops, no casual slides, and definitely no sneakers.
Tropical Wedding Fables
Another common misconception we’ve encountered? That a tropical wedding means pastel everything. Not true. Some of the most visually stunning celebrations we’ve designed have embraced bold, earthy tones, high-contrast palettes, or all-neutrals with texture.
If there’s a color direction you love, share it—kindly. Guests appreciate parameters, especially when framed as inspiration rather than instruction. A simple note like “We’re leaning into rich neutrals and tonal looks—think black, champagne, and terracotta” helps set the visual tone without sounding demanding.
And if your wedding spans multiple events, dress code communication becomes even more important. You might be planning a welcome party, rehearsal dinner, beach day, and the wedding itself—each with its own look and feel.
The best way to keep things cohesive? Add a ‘What to Wear’ section to your wedding website. Offer guidance for each event so guests feel prepared without being overwhelmed.
What to Wear: A Guide to Dressing for Every Moment of a Destination Wedding Weekend
We’ve planned weddings across countless tropical destinations, and while no two weekends are ever identical, this is the styling guidance we come back to again and again.
Welcome Party: Cocktail Vibes with Personality
This is your guests’ first moment to dress up and lean into the excitement. Cocktail attire with a twist works beautifully here—bold prints, standout midis, modern jumpsuits, or dressy sets for women; lightweight suits or elevated separates for men. Statement shoes, stylish sandals, and playful accessories are welcome.
Rehearsal Dinner: Understated Sophistication
Often a bit more intimate and grounded in the couple’s heritage or story, this event calls for a smart, versatile look. Women might wear a slip dress, silk set, or something architectural and minimal. Men can go for a sharp blazer, dress trousers, or a refined suit with or without a tie. It’s elevated but doesn’t try too hard.
Beach or Poolside Gathering: Refined Resort Wear
Whether it’s a beach day or boat outing, casual doesn’t mean sloppy. Women should opt for chic swimwear with elegant cover-ups, flowy dresses, or linen sets. Men can stick with crisp button-downs, linen shorts or trousers, and leather slides or espadrilles. It’s relaxed, but intentional.
Wedding Day: Black Tie Optional
This is where you pull out all the stops—but with breathing room. For women: gowns, structured cocktail dresses, and jumpsuits in formal fabrics. For men: tuxedos or dark suits with dress shoes and a tie. Don’t forget to remind guests about the terrain if your venue involves sand, stone paths, or grass. They’ll thank you later.
What we love about black tie optional is that it invites elegance, without excluding comfort. It says, “This is a moment. Dress for it.” And that mindset—thoughtful, celebratory, present—is what truly sets the tone for a memorable destination wedding.
From our experience at Amy Abbott Events and The Luxe Bride Experience, your guests want to get it right. Give them the cues, show them the vibe, and let them rise to the occasion. With a little direction and a lot of intention, your wedding weekend won’t just be beautiful—it’ll feel beautifully you.
Here’s to you!
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